Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Why I'm Dresses/Skirts only.
As some of you may have noticed, in the last 9 months or so, I've gone to wearing dresses/skirts only. For those of you who may have wondered why, here is my answer :)
I have a very low self image. I always have and it's something I've always worked to try to overcome, especially now that I have daughters. About a year ago I was feeling exceptionally bad about myself, to the point of not wanting to even bother getting dressed in the mornings. As I addressed this issue with lots of prayer, I found myself stumbling across websites and blogs that addressed biblical modesty and feminism. I felt that the Lord was asking me to dress more modestly and feminine. I laughed, thinking there was no way I was going to wear a shapeless dress that made me look like a frumpy old woman! After all, the whole issue was I wanted to be pretty, not nondescript! Well, as you can imagine, the Lord continued to push me in the direction he wanted. I slowly started to realize that you could dress modestly and feminine, while still being pretty. So I finally decided to give it a try. I made myself a couple of skirts (I'll highlight my homemade skirts in another post) and started wearing them a few days a week. I slowly started to realize that I felt better about myself when I wore a skirt. I saw myself as pretty when I looked in the mirror. I also started to feel more and more uncomfortable in pants. So, with my birthday money in hand, I headed to Value Village to acquire a new wardrobe :) I came home with several skirts and a few tops (I was still nursing at the time, so dresses didn't really work) and have worn skirts/dresses ever since. I now feel incredibly uncomfortable when I wear pants. I've also noticed that people tend to be more polite to me. Men, even young men, almost always hold the door open for me, something that almost never happened before! And the best part is, my girls are now starting to choose a skirt or a dress, without my having to say anything!
I wanted to share my story because I think some people resist dresses/skirts only because they see it as a legalistic thing. That was a big part of my resistance in the beginning. I wanted to show others that sometimes dressing more femininely can help you to feel better about yourself.